Inkwell: Authors and Artists
David Gans (tnf) Mon 25 Feb 02 15:09
Also: Where do cats fit in?
excessively heterosexual (saiyuk) Mon 25 Feb 02 15:42
> The sexual landscape when I was growing up: It was all diet books, all the > time. Maybe Women who love too much had come out, I'm not sure. Honey, when you (and I) were growing up, all there was for girls -- except for the secret handbook that none of you will ever spill about -- was Facts of Life and Love for Teenagers by Evelyn Millis Duvall. It said "for teenagers" but, trust me, it was only for *girl* teenagers. So I spent my adolescence trying to snag my big brother's copy of The Cadillac Illustrated Encyclopedia of Sex.
David Gans (tnf) Mon 25 Feb 02 17:33
"Pornography and the Law," at my grandma's house, was as hot as it got circa 1962. Of course, I was eight years old. When did "The Sensuous Woman" come out?
just some misplaced Joan of Arc (strega) Mon 25 Feb 02 18:15
Yes, of course once a month but you are right; when there was no Problem Lady we channeled her. Can only do that over weeks not years. That was the best letters column in the history of the universe. Plus it was funny enough to get us howling like idiots. We'd grab a Village Voice, run back to V.'s NYC dorm or my apartment on St. Mark's place, and flip through for Problem Lady or the regular column. We wore black, we were totally cool human beings, and we were young in Greenwich Village. Okay, so how many of those letters to the Problem Lady did you write yourself? Some of them were just too damn good to have come in by chance.
Carol Gunby (raku) Mon 25 Feb 02 19:12
Re: 16 How about bookstores? I notice your tour this time around has been primarily (if not all) independent stores. Has it ever been thus? And if not, do you notice a difference in the audience? The chapter on boundaries has the most succinct description of the concept I've read -- would have been a great shortcut through therapy a few years back, not to mention being a lot funnier.
r (thaisa) Mon 25 Feb 02 20:30
dahling Cynthia-of-Oakland: would you actually give a reading anywhere? like in the paper mill at Lewistown, Pennsylvania? tell me no! one thing that struck me about your book is that the humor never seems forced. it's just funny. so I wondered if you knew, as you wrote, that something was funny, or discovered it afterwards, or were, in some way, surprised about it in the process of writing--or were trying to be funny. I suppose I'm talking about the differenc between making a big huge artistic effort, which often is strained, or finding the voice that just says it.
Bradburn Young (bradburn) Mon 25 Feb 02 20:58
Cynthia, you don't have to answer about who wrote the Problem Lady questions if you don't want to.
excessively heterosexual (saiyuk) Mon 25 Feb 02 21:40
You don't *have* to. But we'd hate to have the GAO *sue* you to release that information. Just saying.
just some misplaced Joan of Arc (strega) Mon 25 Feb 02 22:29
Okay, most of them were too good to have come in by chance. Unless all the girlz in NYC were channeling the PL, except for the ones who were channeling Patti Smith but maybe even some of them. But not the ones who were channeling Deborah Harry.
David Gans (tnf) Mon 25 Feb 02 23:06
Cynthia, what is the modern-day equivalent of the "reproachful martini"?
Dr. Leda Horticulture (leroy) Tue 26 Feb 02 07:00
Cynthia, I really like Thaisa's comments about your use of humor, and how it doesn't feel forced. I struggle with this issue myself--I somehow signed up to write a monthly column about growing roses that's supposed to be funny, but the truth is, after about three months I ran out of all the funny things there are to say about growing roses. Admittedly your subject matter is a gold mine in comparison. But your humor seems to flow so naturally and easily. It's not forced or stale or cruel. Is it just that you've spent your life learning to see the humor in every single thing and body? Do you ever have days where you wake up and the goddamn world is just NOT FUNNY and you're so weary of humorhumorhumor you want to throw up?
Neil Gaiman (neilgaiman) Tue 26 Feb 02 08:11
Cynthia -- but what about Leave it to Psmith, where Psmith winds up in Lord Emsworth's employ (and is thereafter never seen again)?
Bloody hell (acronychal-8) Tue 26 Feb 02 09:53
Cynthia - I've been reading your stuff since I was 11 - my father had a subscription to Playboy. I, like, love you. So here's my question: You are the original 'Sex and the City' chick. In every interview or commentary regarding one of the new, 'innovative,' female writers of the sex books, you are never given credit for being an influence or paving the way. Does this piss you off?
David Gans (tnf) Tue 26 Feb 02 10:02
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a nose full of kafka (plum) Tue 26 Feb 02 11:37
ccarol ccantor. papillons remember things for a really long time. they are yes, little fluffy doggies who look like they have no discernable purpose, but NO! Papillons are often service dogs for people in wheelchairs! Papillons have been know to pick up the laundry and make the bed and I'm not kidding. Also, the bay area is full of people who a) think they know everything and b) think that their lives should be perfect because they pay so much to live here, and c) have a really viral case of political correctness. And guess what I had when I first moved here? An SUV. It was wrong and evil but how did I know? I thought it was cool and British. Now I have a honda and nobody leaves notes on my car anymore.
a nose full of kafka (plum) Tue 26 Feb 02 11:38
David your question actually is, "How come you're such a fabulous writer, Cynthia?" And my answer is a gentle, regal nod. I can't give away writing secrets for less than one million dollars.
a nose full of kafka (plum) Tue 26 Feb 02 11:39
also David, cats fit in anywhere they want to. cats are very cool beasts. I wouldn't have one, but that's just me.
a nose full of kafka (plum) Tue 26 Feb 02 11:40
Andy you are right. I was actually thinking more along the lines of when I actually decided to write sex tips for girls. I wasn't actually prepubescent then.
a nose full of kafka (plum) Tue 26 Feb 02 11:42
strega, I prefer to have a veil covering the answer to which problem lady answers I wrote myself. A woman must protect her modesty.
David S. Greene (dsg) Tue 26 Feb 02 11:42
Ms. Heimel? When do the *boys* get a book? Just wondering.
a nose full of kafka (plum) Tue 26 Feb 02 11:47
whoops! I meant problem lady *questions*, strega.
F (fom) Tue 26 Feb 02 11:48
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a nose full of kafka (plum) Tue 26 Feb 02 11:50
raku, I am reading at plenty of Barnes and Nobles. They audiences are actually great! But of course my heart beats for the indies, yes, and the indies seem somewhat more aware that I exist. Please everybody look at the nice review of my book in PEOPLE magazine of all places.
Gail Williams (gail) Tue 26 Feb 02 12:17
Wow, that's reach, Cynthia. Getting out there for generations of girls/grrls/etc.
excessively heterosexual (saiyuk) Tue 26 Feb 02 12:40
> Papillons have been know to pick up the laundry and make the bed and I'm not > kidding. Yeah, tell me about it. I lay out my clothes all nice and neat, and then go out for a while. When I get back, Mikey has moved everything around on the bed. While it's possible that he's making an aesthetic statement amd trying to be helpful, it seems to me more like he's adjusting things for *his* comfort.
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