The WELL: inkwell.vue.242: Deborah Santana, "Space Between the Stars"

#99: ka6atn (paul) Sun 30 Oct 05 07:12

Sun, 30 Oct 2005 07:12:00 PST

Debra sb Deborah. [Read entire topic]

#98: ka6atn (paul) Sun 30 Oct 05 07:10

Sun, 30 Oct 2005 07:10:00 PST

Debra is given great coverage on today's CBS Sunday Morning in a piece about Carlos Santana. They do one cut of a book event in San Francisco. [Read entire topic]

#97: Suttle (su) Fri 22 Apr 05 17:08

Fri, 22 Apr 2005 17:08:00 PDT

Thank you, Deborah. I hope we'll see more books from you in the future. [Read entire topic]

#96: Deborah Santana (dssantana) Fri 22 Apr 05 15:16

Fri, 22 Apr 2005 15:16:00 PDT

Thank you, one and all, for participating in this conversation about "Space Between the Stars." I have enjoyed being a visitor to The Well and it was all Su's idea - thank you, Su.

Please check my website for news of upcoming book events if you want to hear me read - www.deborahsantana.com

All of you who want to write your stories, begin or continue. I am truly transformed by the experience of speaking my life out into the universe. Who knows why it took me so long? I believe it is perfect timing.

So, follow your own rhythm, your own light, your own truth and dance on down the road...

Peace out -

Deborah Santana [Read entire topic]

#95: Deborah Santana (dssantana) Fri 22 Apr 05 15:12

Fri, 22 Apr 2005 15:12:00 PDT

<What kind of feedback have you received from your family?>

All loving support. Carlos's sisters who read my book say they feel a new tenderness and love for me. Isn't that lovely? [Read entire topic]

#94: Deborah Santana (dssantana) Fri 22 Apr 05 15:11

Fri, 22 Apr 2005 15:11:00 PDT

<On the thought of a book by your husband, if he had to tell the stories of his infidelities, would that reopen old wounds for both of you, or would it serve as the final healing catharsis to mend the hurt and put it irrefutably behind you forever? Did your Mother respect your wishes and leave the staples in her copy of the book? *And were you concerned about your son and daughter's reactions to the two abortions? >

I don't think I could read Carlos's stories of infidelities. And, I don't think he would tell them. Carlos is one who lives in the present with tremendous positive energy. My sharing of his faltering/humanness gave him great pain, not because he was exposed, but because he felt my anguish and sorrow. He is not the same person, so he would never recount that time.

Yes, my mother has honored my request to not read the painful pages. I know she is tempted, but she is sensitive and trusts my judgment/warning.

Only Salvador (21) and Stella (20) read SBTS. They did not comment on specific parts of my story that caused them tears, but both said they cried and laughed at my life. I believe it extremely important not to malign myself or anyone for the choices we've made in life. There is so much hurt on the journey... Salvador and Stella believe in freedom of choice and in healing and forgiveness. Maybe one day we'll speak about specifics of the book. Maybe not. [Read entire topic]

#93: Cynthia Dyer-Bennet (cdb) Fri 22 Apr 05 12:45

Fri, 22 Apr 2005 12:45:00 PDT

Amazing as it might seem, two whole weeks have flown by since this conversation began. I want to thank you, Deborah for sharing so much of your time, of your energy, of yourself here. I also want to thank you, Su, for your grace in guiding this discussion.

Our virtual spotlight has turned to a new author, but this topic doesn't have to end; it will remain open for further comment indefinitely. Please feel free to continue if you're able, Deborah and Su, and if you need to wrap it up, thank you both for joining us. [Read entire topic]

#92: Authentic Frontier Gibberish (gerry) Thu 21 Apr 05 14:39

Thu, 21 Apr 2005 14:39:00 PDT

Good question, <su>. I'm also interested. [Read entire topic]

#91: Suttle (su) Thu 21 Apr 05 14:29

Thu, 21 Apr 2005 14:29:00 PDT

Your publisher may not have been interested in the excised pages, Deborah but I certainly am. Really would have liked to read more about the whole How and Why of your experience with Sri Chinmoy. Any chance you might include the 200 pages in another work? or post it on your website for us to read? [Read entire topic]

#90: from JAN MILLARD (tnf) Wed 20 Apr 05 16:02

Wed, 20 Apr 2005 16:02:00 PDT

Jan Millard writes:

I spent last Friday listening to the audio book, and all day Saturday reading the hardback copy, because I could not put it down. I am sorry that I was unable to come to your book signing in Pasadena, but my work day made it impossible. Hopefully, you will plan another southern journey, and include a store closer to Riverside.

Your honesty and revelations were brilliant, and it was almost eerie how much your writing resembled my own journals. I have been married to my husband for 27 years, and your worst secrets are my worst secrets.* I am amazed that you were able to discuss them so openly, and wonder if I will ever be able to do likewise. When I write in my journal I am so brutally honest, often in a fantastical manner, but I keep those words to myself. The times that I have premitted others to share, or (worse yet) when I have been violated by someone sneak-reading my journals, left me feeling mentally raped. There are whole periods of my life where I simply refused to put my thoughts down because*my husband*would read my journals behind my back, and I*didn't want to censor MYSELF. (Irony!) I marvel at your ability to continue to write, even when you had to be so brutally truthful, and fully understand why you couldn't let Carlos read rough drafts. Disapproval would have made you leave out your true essence, which would have been dishonest to everyone, but most especially yourself. At any rate, you have inspired me to not give a damn what others say!* "Beauty is Truth, Truth Beauty" afterall.

On the thought of a book by your husband, if he had to tell the stories of his infidelities, would that reopen old wounds for both of you, or would it serve as the final healing catharsis to mend the hurt and put it irrefutably behind you forever? Did your Mother respect your wishes and leave the staples in her copy of the book? *And were you concerned about your son and daughter's reactions to the two abortions? I think, as a parent, I have been straight forward with my daughter about the wildness of the 1970's, etc., but I am not sure I'll ever*be ready to tell my Mother everything! What kind of feedback have you received from your family?

Sincerely, Jan Millard [Read entire topic]