Julie Rehmeyer (jrehmeyer) Mon 18 Mar 13 16:13
Two writing questions for you, John: First, I'd be interested to hear about how you went about combining the reporting and the memoir. Did the interleaving come about in a natural way, or were there times when you weren't sure how to integrate the reporting into your personal story? Also, what was the most challenging aspect of writing the book?
not Well-kinky, but normal-person kinky. (jswatz) Mon 18 Mar 13 18:42
Julie, I knew from the start that I wanted to blend reporting and the personal narrative, and so the alternation of chapters was in the original proposal. This was an approach I tried with my previous book, Short, and it felt good, though the result was a little uneven. I felt even steadier this time around, and hope that the combination worked. The hardest part? Reading the audiobook aloud. Reliving it in the studio just tore me up, and the happy parts were sometimes harder than the tough parts. I was a mess at the end of three days.
Julie Rehmeyer (jrehmeyer) Mon 18 Mar 13 19:32
Oof. I can imagine.
David Wilson (dlwilson) Tue 19 Mar 13 12:12
<50> Thanks for the pointer to Solomon's book. I'm on the waiting list at the library to get that book. I agree with the central point that you cite that there is nothing in homosexuality that directly leads to mental illness, but it is rather the stress of being a pariah that contributes. What is your take on how mental illness will fare with Obamacare? The insurance industry has so far resisted funding for effective treatment of mental illness. Like the "war on drugs" the policies are pushing the problems into the corners without addressing the root causes. The reason I raise this within the context of homosexuality is the enormous resistance to it on multiple grounds. Similar to the abortion debate and much more similar to to initial reaction to AIDs as a public health problem.
not Well-kinky, but normal-person kinky. (jswatz) Tue 19 Mar 13 12:55
Mental health care always gets the short end of the stick, doesn't it? The Affordable Healthcare Act does call for expanded coverage of mental illness, but it's unclear how cooperative the insurance industry will ultimately be. If you'd like to read more on the link between mental disorders and the stress of being a sexual minority, I recommend the work of Ilan Meyer. Here's one of his papers: <http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/pmc2072932/> Meyer's testimony in the Proposition 8 case was powerful and was quoted extensively by Judge Walker in his opinion.
Lisa Harris (lrph) Thu 21 Mar 13 03:16
I just began reading, John! Your description of little boys wanting to dress up like Wonder Woman brought back to me all of the stories of my late brother in law. Tim loved to dress up, especially in his big sister's shoes. It was a sad day when his foot (size 12 once he was full grown) was too big for them. While his parents were well aware that Tim was different than his older brothers, I'm sorry to say they weren't as wonderfully accepting as you and your wife. Do you see parental acceptance as more common today? Or are you and your family the exceptions to the rule?
not Well-kinky, but normal-person kinky. (jswatz) Thu 21 Mar 13 04:27
I do think more parents are accepting than before -- with no data to back me up aside from the greater acceptance of homosexuality overall as shown in the polling--but there's still plenty of rejection out there, and it's heartbreaking. I am reading "In One Person," the latest novel by John Irving, about a boy who grows up bisexual. He meets wonderful acceptance from many of the people around him, but his mother can't forgive him for not being straight. It's many of Irving's usual themes, beautifully done--
not Well-kinky, but normal-person kinky. (jswatz) Thu 21 Mar 13 11:42
a new topic has started, so we seem to be done here--thanks, everybody! If you have more questions, comments or anything else to say, feel free to post on the Facebook page for the book: www.facebook.com/OddlyNormalBook, or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Jon Lebkowsky (jonl) Thu 21 Mar 13 12:13
Thanks, John! Though the next inkwell conversation has started, it's fine for you to continue here as well. The end dates for these conversations are soft.
Julie Rehmeyer (jrehmeyer) Thu 21 Mar 13 12:20
Thanks John! For the conversation and the book.
not Well-kinky, but normal-person kinky. (jswatz) Thu 21 Mar 13 13:00
>>> The end dates for these conversations are soft. like my brain.
Lisa Harris (lrph) Fri 19 Jul 13 10:45
John, it took me until now to finish reading your book. Thank you. There are so many families I know who will benefit from your story, as well as the data weaves throughout. Please tell Joe I love his children's book. I hope to see it in print soon.
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