The WELL: inkwell.vue.66: Katie Granju - Attachment Parenting

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#55: Cynthia Dyer-Bennet (cdb) Fri 3 Mar 00 20:59

Fri, 03 Mar 2000 20:59:00 PST

Thanks, Katie, for joining inkwell.vue. This has been a wonderful and thought-provoking conversation. As Karen noted, you are welcome to stick around and respond to other questions that might arise. And good luck on your new book! [Read entire topic]

#54: Karen Freeman (karen-golden) Fri 3 Mar 00 16:25

Fri, 03 Mar 2000 16:25:00 PST

Thank you very much, Katie, for the conversation, and to all those who joined in.

I hope your work has a lasting effect on American attitudes about infant/toddler dependency needs and how parents should go about meeting those needs. The idea of a society that actually supports parents trying to be good parents rather than yelling at parents for not being good enough just brings tears to my eyes! I think your work moves us in the right direction and I thank you.

I'll leaving town tonight and am uncertain how regularly I'll post over the next week. I'll look forwardd to coming back and finding a lively continuing conversation. [Read entire topic]

#53: among fiends (frako) Fri 3 Mar 00 15:08

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I can't really judge so generally, Karen. [Read entire topic]

#52: Linda Castellani (castle) Fri 3 Mar 00 12:25

Fri, 03 Mar 2000 12:25:00 PST

Thank you very much, Katie, for that response.

And let me thank you also for being such an interesting interview subject these last few weeks. You are welcome to continue, if you'd like, but I wanted to take this opportunity to thank you for being here.

And thank you to Karen, also, for leading this conversation! [Read entire topic]

#51: Katie Allison Granju (katiegranju) Fri 3 Mar 00 06:39

Fri, 03 Mar 2000 06:39:00 PST

Linda asked me to say a little more about the family bed and how it works in families. There really isn't only one way to co-sleep with your kids. Among the families I interviewed, as well as my own family, there were many different styles of family sleep sharing. In my own family, I keep my babies in bed with us full time until they are verbal toddlers and then we begin slowly offering them the opportunity to try out their own bed. With my now four year old, we started with a futon on the floor next to our bed and she and I started the night together there and then I would hop up into my bed later. Now she starts the night in her own bed (which was mine as a little girl) in her own room, but many nights she slips in between us sometime during the night. We really don't even notice. My two year old has just begun ASKING to sleep in the bottom bunk in my older son's room (his big boy bed!) so either my husband or I lie down with him each night and nurse him (me) or massage and sing him to sleep. He usually prefers his own bed now and would rather stay in it and have us come to him if he wakes.

Other families have a big family sleep room with just a bunch of futons on the floor for the whole crew. SOme parents keep their infants in a "sidecar" arrangement with a crib or bassinet attached to the side of their own bed. For myself, I always enjoyed the special feeling of having my infants snuggled up right next to me. My husband feels strongly that the tactile experience of having his babies right next to him at night has been a strong help with his own bonding with the kids. He knows what they smell like, breathe like, etc -- just like I do.

As for an upper age for co-sleeping, I think that's a highly individual choice. My eight year old has had nightmares lately since I stupidly let him watch a video called "Alien Autopsy" ;-), so he has been asking to sleep with us. We enjoy that because we can lie there and watch this big boy sleep and marvel that he was once so tiny. And both Chris and I know that the years when he will want us to sleep near him at night are ending. We treasure them.

Katie [Read entire topic]

#50: Karen Freeman (karen-golden) Thu 2 Mar 00 14:58

Thu, 02 Mar 2000 14:58:00 PST

When you compare child-rearing practices between the two cultures, frako, which do you think does better? [Read entire topic]