Where We Can Learn About Change
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Yet for many of us, the need to learn these skills is immediate, sandwiched in with the need to learn more organizational skills, keep up with new technologies, build a whole new expertise in information sciences, become expert in the complexities of compensation, master contracting law -- the list seems endless.
It's a long path, there is no time, and the need is immediate, so where do you start? These are a few of my favorite resources that you might find useful in the struggle to become adept at dealing with change. This is my list, what I have discovered looking through my particular lens. We all develop, over time, our own personal strategies for dealing with change. There is a saying: "Many paths, one mountain." As you move further on your path, as an individual and as a leader in an organization, you may well find other resources that excite your passion, teach you something, give you new eyes. I would love to hear about them.
Until then, here are some of the resources that I have noticed. If you would like to enter more deeply into this universe of thought with me, try out some of my favorite sources:
We all strive for success, and I would not wish failure on anyone. But we all do fail. If we are honest with ourselves, we fail quite often -- we make a bad decision, or end up crosswise with our spouse, instead of just listening. These failures are all about us, and they are exquisite teaching devices equipped with industrial-strength memory aids.
When I fail, I have a powerful impulse to distance myself from the failure -- tell myself all the ways it which it was not my fault, mention it to no one, "put it behind me," as the PR folks say. But it does me no good behind me. It is full of information, exactly tailored to me, because it is my failure, no one else's. If I am not to be doomed to committing the same mistake over and over, I must put my failure beside me, sit it down in a comfortable chair, bring it a cup of coffee, and pump it for every bit of information that it can bring me about how I failed, and how I can do better.
One of the earliest and most important parts of any program of personal change is setting the agenda for your own personal future by bringing to the table all your hopes for the future, your beliefs and assumptions, your values and goals -- the rudder you put your hand on when you step back into anamnesis in the midst of turbulence. Some very useful seminars are built around this fundamental skill of surfacing your deepest values and changing your life to pursue them. The best of them include the Franklin Quest seminars (put on by the people who make the Franklin Planner datebooks, at 1-800-819-1776), and the Covey Leadership Center's "First Things First" seminars (1 800 680 6839 or international 001 1 801 377 1888).
Any change is, in part, physical. You can understand it in your head, but until it lives in your body, it won't change your behavior. If you wish to be different, you must learn to move differently, to make different physical decisions. What works for me is a martial art called Aikido, which effectively maps many of the deepest principles of dealing with change into physical movements dealing with attackers. Look in the phone book under "Martial Arts" or under "Karate, Judo, and other martial arts."
Of course, I also have a list of favorite books that you might like as well.
Mastering change is a long process, but unlike building a cathedral or growing apples, as soon as you start you will have something that you can use Ñ some insight, a different way of looking at what is confronting you, something to help jar you to a more creative strategy.
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